When you first begin dating, a relationship can seem very exciting. The idea of turning a crush into something more can be unreal. It is important to keep in mind that not everyone is well suited for you, however. There is a possibility that you may find yourself with an abuser. Here are some of the things that may indicate that you’re in an abusive relationship.
Verbal Abuse
A less obvious sign of an abusive relationship is verbal abuse. A verbal abuser will call you names that may include fat, ugly, or stupid. He or she may also make derogatory remarks. If the person that you are dating repeatedly verbally abuses you and continues to do so even after you tell them that the words that they use hurt your feelings, it is a good idea to end the relationship. The verbal abuse is probably going to continue long into the relationship and there is no reason that you should have to put up with it. Also keep in mind that verbal abuse often leads to other forms of abuse.
Physical Abuse
The most obvious sign of an abusive relationship is physical abuse. If the person that you are dating hits you or harms you in any other physical manner, they are most definitely abusive. Also keep in mind that forcing you to have sexual intercourse can be another form of physical abuse. If you are being forced to do something against your will, then the relationship is not healthy and you must get out of it immediately. You may tell yourself that the person you are dating didn’t really mean to hit you but there is really no excuse for this. Abusers often turn into bigger abusers and if you do not end the relationship right away, it is possible for it to end fatally.
Jealousy and Possessiveness
Abusers often have very jealous and possessive natures. They often become upset when you are spending time with friends and may even ask you not to see them anymore. Even worse, some abusers may ask you to not spend so much time with their family. Many people in abusive relationships do not feel happy unless you are spending time with them at all times. When you do hang out with friends, they may call you frequently to check up on you. If you often feel like the person that you are dating does not trust you, wants to know where you are at all times, and tells you that you are not allowed to go somewhere with a friend or family member, then it is important to realize that you are in an abusive relationship.
Abusive relationships can be very difficult and it often may be hard to tell if you are in one. It is important to get out of an abusive relationship as soon as you begin to feel as though something is not quite right, whether it is verbal or physical abuse. The sooner that you get out of the relationship, the better off that you will be. If you are threatened by the person for getting out of the relationship, be sure to tell one of your parents or call the police. There will be people to assist you but no one can make you want to end an abusive relationship except for yourself. Whether you are a man or a woman, abusive relationships are just not worth it.
i fail to believe some of the fact mentioned above, i don’t believe that possesssivenes and jealousy are one aspects of abusive relationship - me and my wife are married and have very limited problematic situation, simply because we’ve decided to spend more time together that with friends. friend and family are good but they should not be in a competitive position in any relationship, often times we tend to believe and take lousy and cheap guidences and advices given by our pals that normally carries hidden envy and jealosy.
if jealosy and possessivenes benefit and profit the relationship, then it’s woth it.
Comment by natty — August 5, 2009 @ 2:30 am