Breaking up with your girlfriend is one of the toughest things that we learn to do as teenagers. We are no longer happy with them, but we do not want to hurt them either. What do you do when you care for your girlfriend, but you no longer want to be together? Breaking up with your girlfriend is rarely easy, and always should be done with respect and careful consideration of their feelings. Here is how to break up with your girlfriend with the least amount of pain.
The first thing you should do is understand that you are doing the right thing. Though she may act as though she hates your guts, and will likely be very upset, you are still doing what is right. Nobody should stay with someone they are unhappy with. It is unfair to your girlfriend, and to yourself. Feel confident that in the long run, you both will be better off.
Before you break up with your girlfriend, always make certain that you are absolutely sure it is what you want. The worst thing you can do is break up with her and then get back together over and over. This back and forth is far more cruel to her feelings than any break up. Make a decision and be certain of it.
If you are planning to break up with your girlfriend, make sure she has support nearby. Call one of her close friends or family members. Let them know that you care for her, but that you are no longer wanting to be with her as a boyfriend. Let them know that you are calling them so they can be there for her after you break up. Let them know when you are planning to do it.
Once the time comes, you need to make sure that it is in total privacy. Do not break up on a date, or at school. Talk with her at her own home if possible. That way she will already be with people that will support her. Also, you have the option to leave if things get heated.
Allow your girlfriend to vent when you break up with her. Explain to her that you do care, and that you can understand why she feels hurt. Let her know that you are doing this because you care, and you did not want to lead her on.
When you break up with your girlfriend, leave her alone for a good long while. Do not “try to be friends” or be close with her right afterwards. The wound is too fresh, and you will end up just making it harder. Leave her alone, and let her heal.
Do not talk about your relationship with others under any circumstances. Just say that it did not work out. That is more than enough information for others, and you do not want her to feel you are talking about her.
Breaking up with your girlfriend is a hard thing to do. Spend plenty of time answering questions if you can do so civilly. If not, allow her the option of asking questions later after she has cooled off. She deserves the truth, but do not tell her things that are hurtful. It serves no purpose and only will make her feel that much worse about the relationship.
Always remember to stay respectful of your girlfriend. She is a lady, and you should treat her like one. Never lose your temper, and if you feel that you may, then you should leave immediately.
