Asking for a first date can be really nerve-wracking. It is important to keep in mind that almost everyone is nervous the first time that they ask a certain person on a date. Here are some tips on how to ask for a date and increase your chances of getting it.
Be as Confident as Possible
Nothing will decrease your chances of getting a date more than a lack of confidence. Even if you are incredibly nervous, it is important to be confident if you want any shot of getting a date. It is important to maintain your composure, keep a steady voice, and avoid any nervous habits, such as hair twirling, ring twisting, or biting nails.
Always Ask in Person
Avoid asking someone on a date over the phone or on the computer. These may seem like easier options because you will not need to risk facing someone if you get rejected. Asking in person is a much better option because it will allow you to show the other person how confident you are. Also keep in mind that if you don’t already have the other person’s phone number or online screen name, they may find it unusual for you to contact them out of the blue.
Don’t Lie About Yourself
If you are planning to ask someone on a date, the most important thing that you will want to do is be yourself. You don’t want the other person to think you’re someone that you’re not. Being completely honest to the other person is very important. Lying may seem like a good idea at the moment, but they are bound to learn the truth later on.
State a Specific Time
One of the biggest mistakes that many people make when trying to make a date is saying, “Would you like to go out with me sometime?” Sometime is very open-ended and even if the person is very interested in you, they may not come up with a date suggestion or time. To be more specific, ask something along the lines of, “Would you like to go to the movies with me on Friday night at 7:00?”
Give the Benefit of the Doubt
If the person says no, keep in mind that it may not necessarily be because the person is uninterested in you. Perhaps they have other plans. Give them the benefit of the doubt to ask them a second time for a date. If you get a rejection the second time around, it is likely because they really aren’t interested unless they give you an explanation. In any case, it is a good idea to avoid asking a third time. If they want to go on a date, they should ask you at this point, regardless of if it is a woman or a man.
The most important thing that you will want to remember is that you should not get discouraged. There is a possibility that the person may turn you down. If this happens, there is nothing that you can do besides accept it. As much as you may want to, there is nothing that you can do to force someone to like you. Remember that there are plenty of other fish in society, and you surely will catch yours.
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Comment by Waseem — June 20, 2009 @ 4:56 am