What does it mean when one says “I miss you”? Miss: to yearn for. Could it have come from the thought of feeling incomplete, thus a missing part is felt?
There might be something there. Usually, the people missed are those that have at one way or another successfully imprinted their mark on a person. One who has filled up a space hearts and/or minds of individuals or groups, which no one else can replace. And once that person leaves that space, there’s a void spot that creates a feeling of emptiness.
To feel this, a certain kind of attachment or connection must have been made, which disrupts the routine of an individual when removed from the picture. The detachment process and the adjustment to the change are those that make the whole situation difficult to deal with. The yearning for things to stay as they were begins.
Some people like the drama of it, the occasion of melancholy and attachment. It gives a feeling of feeling, of being human. It reminds them of the different emotions they posses by not being cold and detached from the world. It makes one remember what it feels like to let someone in, and to share a piece of oneself as well. Others even take this to the next level and add more spice to the show by refusing to function normally. They drink up all the sadness and dwell on the empty space, refusing to move on.
Others do this as a sign of loyalty. When a person they’re committed to leaves, then they are expected to hold the fort in that space and leave it open for them to come back to when the time is right.
But for the non-committed fellows, there’s a good and reliable remedy called distraction. This is when the mind and heart learns to fill up the space, either by finding a replacement that can do the same job as the one that left, or by filling it up with a different kind of mark. It can be another person, a new hobby, or something else that would occupy ones mind and heart.
This cure is tried and tested by many brokenhearted blokes and ladies who have missed another person in vain and survived the rejection of it not being reciprocated. When the person missed does not return the feeling, then it simply means there is no connection. In this situation of a one-way street, one full shot at changing ones pattern and rearranging ones world, the vacated space will hardly be remembered.
One thing that’s good to remember is that feeling incomplete is not synonymous to actually being incomplete. No matter how dire the yearning is, no matter how painful the void might cause, and no matter how inconvenient the adjustment stage is, one has not truly lost a piece of himself. It means space is opened up for something new. The glass is not half empty, it’s always half full. Looking at the bright side of things is always helpful to get through the missing stage.
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