So you’ve met this wonderful man, he’s tall, handsome, incredibly sweet, funny and generally fun to be with. You have a few drinks, may be even go out on a few dates. You are at the point in your relationship where you are seriously considering if your relationship will work, he is, after all, a few years your junior. Suddenly, a hundred questions come running to your head. Can you really get serious with a younger man? Is he really serious with you? In the long run will your age differences matter? These and many other questions plague your mind and may be even the minds of other women out there that find themselves falling for a younger man. You need guidance and you need it now. Well, you’re in luck as I give you my own brand of ‘guidance’ in figuring out if that younger man is really for you.
Maturity is the real test
Does age really matter? My short answer is yes and no. Kind of confusing? It should be because one cannot really make a blanket rule that applies to everyone in every situation. Except probably the rule that if the younger man is old enough to be your son then you would probably have some rough road ahead of you. In my opinion, age is really not the determinant in a couple’s compatibility, it’s their maturity level. It is very difficult for an older woman, who happens to be more mature than the younger man, to understand the little things, or may be even the big things, that the younger man does that seems a little bit immature. With maturity comes responsibility. Responsibility means stability, and which woman in her right mind would shun stability and security? Especially when you’ve reached a certain age. What I’m saying is, if you and your younger man are at the same page when it comes to maturity and responsibility, then I think you’ll have a great future together, otherwise, you’ll soon find out how downhill it all goes once the initial fire and passion between you two have fizzled out. That doesn’t mean that couples that are not equally mature are completely incompatible. It’s just that, according to experience, it is the woman that adjusts to the younger man’s immaturity than the other way around. The road may be difficult, especially for the woman, but it’s not impossible.
In honesty, everything else follows from maturity. Maturity determines how both of you acts and makes decisions in different areas of your life. For example, if you’re the older woman you may take your job and career seriously. You’ve probably realized what you want to do with your life and the ways on how to achieve your dreams, but a younger man may still be figuring out what he wants. He may still have confusions and uncertainties in his future. Responsibility and commitment may be the last thing in his mind. He may just be looking for a good time. Or may be he’s as mature as you are. Again, maturity is the key in finding out if things can really work between the two of you.
In the end, no ‘love guru’ can solve your age issues for you. Each situation is different and it is only you that can answer your own questions. At the end of the day we are only here to give you tools in finding out which direction is best for your relationship. Good Luck!
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